Many people, circumcised or natural, are attracted to young lovers. They state various reasons for this, apart from promiscuity, individual psychological traits or problems with the peer lovers. The physical perfection or better health, the greater vigour, energy, enthusiasm and sexuality of young people are often mentioned. It is true that the bored and tired adults may need extra energy, optimism and stimulation to borrow from the young lovers effortlessly so they ‘feel alive and young again’, as they say. However, young people are emotionally immature. Their unrefined personality, impatience and lack of experience and tact are often frustrating and may have the opposite effect. The characteristics cited above that make young lovers desirable seem to be inessential. They are mostly physical, relate to bodily aspects of sex and disrespect deeper psychological connections.
The psychological traits mentioned in that concern are innocence and purity of young lovers. But they connote also simplicity, nativity, stupidity, shyness, virtuousness, lack of experience and asexuality. What are these qualities valued for? Why is Muslim paradise infested with virgins?
People need stronger sexual experience when their own is disappointing and does not bring them the satisfaction they need. Men need many young lovers in order to compensate for their inability to find satisfaction. In the process of compensation they may become exhausted from and bored with sex which increases their dissatisfaction and leads to further overuse of sex and overvaluing of sexual objects.
The chronic sexual dissatisfaction speaks of ill-treated sexuality. Human sexuality is overdeveloped. Generally, it is not merely left uncultivated but is repressed. As a result sex is wanted but is also frustrating and exhausting. Circumcising religions make it even more frustrating. Religions solve the problem of wanted frustration by reducing the attractiveness of sex by physically or mentally suppressing sexuality. This is a cheaper and an easier method of controlling people than education and cultivating sexuality.
Sexual desensitisation, boredom, frustration, possessiveness, paedophilia and sadomasochism
Frustration often creeps in sexual relations. The reason is that suppressed, misused and uncultivated sexuality is compensated by its excessive exercise. The bored and exhausted lovers are inclined to think that a fresh start and unengaging relation may be better. The innocence and simplicity expected from the young lovers reveals that the dissatisfaction that older ones have from sex stems at least partly from the emotional complications frequently arising in intimate relations.
Frustrated lovers focus on the undemanding physical aspects of sex. Surficial quantity is subconsciously hoped to compensate for the lack of deep emotional gratification. Sexual promiscuity and possessiveness stem from and attempt to recompense for the suppressed sexuality or deficiency of erogenous sensitivity. The stronger sexual suppression is, the greater the compensatory possessiveness and promiscuity it causes is.
Virgins are highly valued because they are not owned or are innocent. Owning sexual objects satisfies man’s sexual possessiveness. To a man the women’s innocence signifies lack of competition. Sex with virgins helps overcoming man’s disaffection, desensitization, boredom, sex frustration and insecurity.
Circumcision desensitises and leads to inefficient erogenous stimulation, to devaluation of erogenous values. Circumcision has the effect of sexual boredom. It brings about a need for substitution or overstimulation or at least a promise about that. Circumcised men find sex less stimulating. They need to compensate for this with greater quantities and with increased security such as that guaranteed by the lack of rivalry.
Love of virgins and the need for too many sex objects betray emotional and sexual frustration and dissatisfaction. Hoarding with sex objects is a logical result from genital desensitisation and sexual frustration. Sexual possessiveness naturally overdevelops as a compensation for the removal of erogenous sensitivity. The eternal erection, the fainting quality of orgasm and the crowd of virgins in Islamic paradise seem to recompense the sensual and orgasmic dissatisfaction inflicted by the mid-childhood circumcision[i]
Chronic pleasure deficit and sexual frustration make men overvalue sexuality of asexual beings such as virgins. Pedocircumcision tends to lead to misuse, overuse and abuse of sexuality which the crowds of virgins in Islamic paradise illustrate. It may be assumed that habitual dissatisfaction is the root of paedophilia and sadomasochism.
So we come to explanation of the paradox why unmatured girls are used as sexual lures in Islam. Love of virgins is found not only in Muslim societies but also in natural societies where sexuality is tabooed and frustrated.